HOW I MADE MY GOALS EVEN BETTER!! ….2019 my best year ever!

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I was feeling pretty motivated when I wrote my previous blog about my 2019 goals.  That was until I attended the most amazing conference in Nashville last week.  Get this,  it was called Best Year Ever.  The next three days were intense as Michael Hyatt spoke to us and with each passing day you could feel the excitement in the room growing.  During this time he taught us why it was important to make goals each year and how to actually achieve them.  Let’s just say I came home feeling so focused and powerful.  It was clear to me that I needed to write another blog about my goals but this one would be much more inspiring!

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Our first day Michael told us that we were all meant to reach our dreams!  We learned to design our break through year and how it was important to be as clear as possible when writing down your goals.   He told us to be clear on our destination and imagine your outcome.   We all have domains in our life and they all work together like a symphony.  When all our domains are balanced and fulfilled it creates a healthy and happy lifestyle.  Our domains are Spiritual, Intellectual, Emotional, Physical,  Marital,  Parental,  Social,  Vocational (work life) ,  Avocational (hobbies) and Financial.   When making your goals at the beginning of each year make sure to write them down!  Start working towards each goal NOW!  If your goal is to save money, don’t tell yourself you will start when you are out of debt.  Go see a Financial Planner and start to get out of debt right away.  Start your goal where you ARE not where you wish you were.  Don’t be embarrassed where your now is either.   In order to set yourself up for a successful year you must take some time to reflect on your previous year and be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you have any regrets.  Acknowledge them,  learn from them and let them go.  Do not bring your regrets into the new year.   It is extremely important to believe in yourself and suspend any disbeliefs you might have.  A good idea is to start saying daily affirmations out loud to yourself every day.  I always thought affirmations were kind of cheesy to be honest but daily affirmations are now a new goal of mine.  I say them out loud  to my self every morning in the shower.   Does my dog wonder who I am talking to?  Probably!  The key is to be consistent with them and make them part of your daily routine.  Now I feel like I am multi tasking when I am in the shower, it’s rewarding!  It’s the small things people!

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It’s also important not to be overly goal orientated.  This can set you up for failure.  Michael suggests having 7 to 10 yearly goals.  I originally had three!  I now have seven exciting goals.  Some people might get over whelmed by this and not know where to start so it’s a great idea to break them down to quarterly goals and start with the easiest task first.

Our second day we learned how to face our fears.  Voicing your fears to yourself helps minimize your fear.  Imagine all that you can accomplish once you face your fears and what is waiting for you on the other side of your fears.   We then learned how to make a good goal even better!  This was the exciting part for me.  An example of this……

Good goal….. I will workout.

Better goal….  Exercise five times a week at 6:30 am for an hour starting January 15th.

Your goal should start with an action verb, include a start date and be as specific as possible.

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Your goals should be risky!  Risky goals ignite your imagination,  they demand creativity,  they enhance results and they inspire enthusiasm!   Your goals should also be exciting and inspire you.  You should also give your self a dead line to reach each goal.  Give yourself less time than you need and do not set the dead line for the end of year.

Creating daily habits and rituals are crucial to reach your goals!   I never knew this and found this part very interesting.  Amazingly enough, 90% of people do not have rituals.  The 10% that do succeed!  I now have a new morning routine and nightly routine.  My morning routine is waking up at 6 am during the week in order to work out at 6:15 am.  I workout for an hour and then walk Mocha for 20 to 30 min.  I say my affirmations while I am in the shower.   I make my social media posts and then don’t check social media again till lunch.  I watch TV while I eat breakfast and then I am ready to start work day at 9 am!  My nightly routine is writing in my grateful journal at 9 pm while watching TV (during a commercial)  at 9:30 pm I set my phone on top of my work out clothes that are already laid out across the room.   This is so I have to get out of bed to turn off my alarm.  This way I don’t lay in bed looking at my Facebook for 15 min. and waste time.  (that was what 2018 Melissa would do)  I read for 30 min and turn the lights out at 10 pm.   I have a great night sleep and wake up refreshed and energized for another exciting day!  Those simple morning and nightly routines are helping me work towards four of my seven goals!   1.  working out   2. daily affirmations   3. less time on social media   4.  reading every day.  Boom!! How can I NOT reach these four goals this year?  I am already doing daily tasks in order to get there!   This is a recipe for success my friends!

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In order to keep the momentum going and stay focused all year you need to write down your motivations for each goal.   At the end of each week read over these motivations in order to keep you on track.  Your motivations are your why.  You never want to lose your why.  Why am I even doing this?  Your motivations will tell you and keep reminding you why you are doing this.  Be prepared to have a messy middle along the way.  You might find you want to give up at some point but going back to your why will motivate you to keep going.  If your goal is to workout then some of your motivations might be….

  1.  So I can look and feel better
  2.  To lose weight
  3.  To live a healthier lifestyle

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Day three we learned how important gratitude was.   Gratitude keeps you motivated and keeps you hopeful.  It can also improve your patience.  You won’t get more of what you want until you are grateful for what you already have.  This is why I have started writing in my grateful journal every night.   I write down five things I am grateful for.  They could be small things or big things.   You might be grateful that the sun was shining that day or you might be grateful that you paid off your credit card bill.   We also learned how to make each goal happen and how to determine the next steps to reach your goals.  You don’t need to know the whole path on how you will get to your goal, just starting with the first few steps and creating momentum is key.    Play full out with your goals!  Don’t have a plan B.  Why set your self up for failure?  You can experiment and change strategies if something doesn’t work but don’t change your goal completely with a Plan B.   Review your 7 to 10 goals every day.   Review your list of motivations for each goal at the end of each week so you don’t lose visibility of your goals along the way.  Ask your self each day what can I do today to move towards my goals?   I have also started asking myself this…. Will this bring me closer towards my goal or will it bring me further from my goal?  When you reach your goal give yourself a reward!  Celebration is very powerful and gives you a sense of progress and confidence.

This is how I turned my three previous goals into even better goals……..

1. Good goal –  I am going to change my workouts so I am leaner and stronger.

Better goal –  Workout out five times a week at 6:15 am for an hour every week starting Jan. 15th by incorporating Ballet,  Yoga and Pilates.

2.  Good goal –  I am going to read more.

Better goal –  Read for 30 minutes every night starting Jan. 15th.

3.  Good goal –  I am going to blog for a local store.

Better goal –  Write a blog for a store starting in April.  I will complete a course on blogging in January.  I will update my website in February.  I will create a blog portfolio in March so I am fully prepared in April.

I really hope that I have inspired some of you to pounce on your goals and to use this information in order to set yourself up for your best year ever!   Feel free to message me if you have any questions or need some help setting your goals for 2019.

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Fun facts….

42% of people are more likely to reach their goals simply by writing them down.

8% of people are successful with their resolutions.

The average person makes the same resolution ten times!!

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

Stay fabulous!

 

 

 

 

 

 

  11 comments for “HOW I MADE MY GOALS EVEN BETTER!! ….2019 my best year ever!

  1. unique1981
    January 21, 2019 at 12:14 am

    Wow
    This is amazing! Thank you for sharing. so inspiring!! You have inspired me to do this tonight!
    When I start thinking about my life and where I have come I want more and to be more but at times feel stuck. Right now I’m rocking back and forth over this hump and with reading this I am confident I am going to accelerate.
    Thank you

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    • styledbymfashion
      January 21, 2019 at 12:33 pm

      This is what I want to hear!! Good luck! Keep me posted on how you do.

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  2. petitdesirfou
    January 21, 2019 at 2:18 pm

    Great post and decisively inspiring. As an artist setting goals are easy and not easy at all. The reconciliation between the art soul and the business needs are often conflictual for me. Reading your post has definitely triggered the strong administrative side of my personality. Now it will be a journey to merge and keep on board the artist.

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    • styledbymfashion
      January 21, 2019 at 2:25 pm

      This is so great to hear!!! Message me anytime if you need some help or if you have any questions! Hope 2019 is all you want it to be!

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      • petitdesirfou
        January 21, 2019 at 2:49 pm

        Thank you. Yes, I will if needed. I am looking forward to 2019. May I make it the best.

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  3. Tonia
    January 21, 2019 at 4:56 pm

    What an amazing post!!! Thank you very much for sharing your goals and what you learned from your conference. This is life changing!!! I cannot wait to read more about your posts. Keep up the amazing journey, I cannot wait to follow it.

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    • styledbymfashion
      January 21, 2019 at 7:29 pm

      Thank you so much, I am happy you loved it just as much as me!!!

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  4. January 23, 2019 at 1:50 am

    And goals should also be measurable which yours are. Love it!

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    • styledbymfashion
      January 23, 2019 at 2:23 pm

      Thank you!!!

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  5. Laura Veitch
    January 27, 2019 at 2:38 pm

    Amazing!! As January slips by and frigid temperatures and short daylight hours keep me close to the fire, I’ve struggled to find a better strategy for staying focused on my goals this year. This blog has given me a blueprint for making that happen and I’m digging out my gratitude journal forthwith! Thank you so much!!

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    • styledbymfashion
      January 27, 2019 at 6:37 pm

      I am so thrilled to read this. Thank you very much.

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