MY NAME IS MELISSA…..and I am a Shopaholic.

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I love shopping, always have and always will.  When I am happy, I shop.  When I am sad, I shop.  When I am bored, I shop.  When I travel, I shop.  You get the point.  There is a rush I get when I am shopping and it’s something I prefer to do alone.  It is literally one of my favorite things in life.

In January I was in Nashville for a conference about goal setting and setting yourself up to have your best year ever.  One of my goals was to save money.  How was I going to do that?  By shopping less.  I don’t need anything.  I have enough clothes, shoes, bags and accessories to dress ten women and it’s all jammed into my tiny downtown condo.  So, it was there at the conference I told myself after Nashville I would not buy anything till June 1st.   This was early January so almost five months of no shopping!  Could I do this? There was no way I could start immediately because Nashville has so many cute neighborhoods with the most unique boutiques and I planned on visiting all of them.   So, I made sure I thoroughly enjoyed my last shopping hurrah.

In February I had my first temptation.   I wanted to get a new winter coat and the end of the season is the time to get one because they are on sale.   Then I remembered this whole not shopping kick I was on.  I started talking myself into it.  It’s not really shopping if it’s something I need.  It would be on sale, so I would be saving money!  Then to make matters worse I found one I loved.   It was in my shopping cart for two days and I was almost going to click buy and then realized if I did this, I would have not only failed but I would not even have lasted a month.  This was the coat…. I still feel sad looking at it.  What are the odds it will still be available in June?  shop11

I was tempted a few times online and really really wanted all of these.   I still really really want them!  Facebook ads are going to be the death of me!

I was even in Vegas in April and I did not buy anything but makeup and only because my eye shadow palette shattered on the plane.  I walked by H&H and almost died when I saw massive signs saying 70% off.  70% off?!?!  That is almost free, it wouldn’t really be shopping if it was free, would it?  I kept walking; I don’t know how I did but I kept walking.

Twice I met a client at Nordstrom to go shopping.   So there I was in the men’s section thinking I got this.  I am working, today is about my client not me.  While he was in the dressing room, I found myself with a pair of Champion cut off joggers in my hand looking for the price tag.  One might think I was safe because I was in the men’s section but I wear men’s sweats!  I was basically torturing myself.   So, I did what I had to do, I ran out of there!!  Ha, no I slowly walked back to the dressing room to wait for my client and kept thinking June can’t come fast enough.

Fast forward a few months, 132 days to be exact and I still have not bought anything, not one article of clothing.   There were times I didn’t think I would make it.  I can see the finish line, only 12 more days.  There is no stopping me now.  These past months have been uber challenging for me, but I am incredibly proud of myself.  So much so that I am going to reward myself with a shopping spree on June 2nd.  I will be in Vegas again and best believe my first stop will be the Outlets!!  Thinking about this makes my heart race and I get butterflies in my stomach.  If I am going to be addicted to anything, I am glad it is shopping and if my only real struggle is not buying anything for 5 months then I am beyond blessed.

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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I WANT TO LOOK MY BEST…….does this make me vain?

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If someone called you vain would you take offense to that?  That is exactly what happened to my friend and I recently.  We were discussing serums and skin care products and her friend chimed in and said we were vain because of our efforts to keep our skin looking as young as possible.  I had never really looked at it that way and I was surprised but I was not offended at all.   I am not ashamed to say I am 43 and will do almost anything to try and keep my skin looking as youthful as possible.  I know that I am not alone in this and that is why skin care products and procedures are a multi-billion-dollar business.

This comment made me start questioning my actions, am I too vain?  Do I care too much about how I look?   Maybe, but I don’t care.  This is who I am and I am growing to love myself more and more each day.

I remember very clearly when I was seven years old,  I was playing on the swing set and a boy told me his brother had a crush on me.  I told him that was not possible because I was ugly.  I will never forget that moment.  I often think of that memory and think how sad it was that I thought that about myself, especially at seven years old!  I believe that is around the time that I started to take an interest in fashion and how I looked.  I wanted to dress in clothes that made me feel pretty.  That is when my passion for fashion bloomed.  Some might think I am vain but I think I am simply building my confidence and self-esteem by trying to look and feel my best and I am okay with that.

As I get older my morning and evening skin care routine have become longer and more expensive.  I probably spend at least an hour a day washing my face, applying serums, face masks, creams, sunscreen,  micro-needling and using my rose quartz roller.  I just started to use a facial steamer at least four times a week as well.   A steamer provides so many benefits and I find it extremely relaxing.  Steaming your face removes toxins,  deep cleanses your skin, helps with blood circulation and hydrates your skin on another level.

I recently made a large investment on a NuFace facial toning device.  The device stimulates your face and neck with a gentle microcurrent.  It helps improve facial contour, tones and reduces wrinkles and fine lines.     I never would have made such a large purchase without reading all the amazing reviews and seeing firsthand how it does truly work.   For maximum results I will use the device 15 to 20 min a day for the first 30 days.  I have been using it for a week and have already seen results!  It plumps my fine lines, making them almost disappear!  It is a commitment but once you start seeing the results you won’t think of it like that.  I am so happy I made this purchase and invested in my vanity.  Ha!  It is pricey but it is cheaper than Botox and other surgical procedures.  I am sure you are curious about NuFace now so click on the link and see for yourself.  I will be sharing some before and after pictures after using it for 30 days. http://www.mynuface.com

I will continue to make time for myself and my skin care routine and if this seems vain to you then that is completely fine by me.  I am taking self-love to the next level!

 

Melissa Gauvreau – Styles by M

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BATHING SUIT SEASON IS AROUND THE CORNER….. are you ready for it?

Are any of us ever really ready for swim suit season?  I think it’s safe to say most men and women do not ever feel 100 percent confident walking around in a bathing suit.  Bathing suits have us feeling vulnerable and I think most of us feel very exposed walking on the beach or laying by the pool in only a bathing suit.   Even the most confident person is much more aware of their body while wearing a bathing suit.

I am loving one pieces these days.  There are so many flattering and stylish one pieces that I really can’t see myself wearing another bikini again.  My bikini days are over and I have really embraced the one piece.

I am 43 years old and I don’t think there has been one time that I have absolutely loved how I look in a bathing suit.   This is why I think it’s important to invest in a really flattering bathing suit that suits your body type.  I am big chested and curvy so support is a must when I am shopping for a bathing suit.  Last year I spent way too much on a bathing suit at Nordstrom but I absolutely love everything about it.  The colour,  the neckline and especially the built in tummy control.   As much as I try to stay positive about my body and love all of me, I can’t help but wish my tummy was flatter and my thighs were slimmer.  These are things I can work on and improve but I that would mean eating much cleaner and I do really love my food.  So, till then I will walk around in my overpriced bathing suit that I feel my best in.

There are so many things you can do to feel more confident in a bathing suit.  Accessories!!!  Big floppy hats are so fun and stylish!

Get yourself a cool cover up.  They can instantly give you all the confidence you need.   I absolutely love mine!

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Nail polish!  You will never see me without my toes and hands painted.  I do them once a week and I feel they complete my outfits.  I am loving these neon colours.  They are fun and perfect for summer.

Sunglasses are my favorite accessory.   It’s so important to protect your eyes from the sun.   I am not going to lie,  sometimes I feel like a movie star when I wear my sunglasses.  Is that weird?  Maybe…. but it’s true!

So next time you have to wear a bathing suit,  embrace it.  Add some fun accessories,  throw on a pair of cool shades that make you feel like a movie star and rock it!

 

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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10 Day Challenge…..what were my challenges?

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A few weeks ago I was watching Jennifer Lopez on Ellen and I heard her talking about the 10 Day Challenge her and Alex did.   Ten days,  no carbs and no sugar.  She said her trainer suggested it because she wanted to look even better than she already does for a new role.  Better than she already does?  How is that even possible?

I sprained my ankle pretty badly in April and my workouts have not been the same since.  Hearing her talk about the challenge inspired me because my workouts were so limited and I was not feeling like myself.   I didn’t waste any time.  I mentally prepared myself and stocked my kitchen with lots of veggies and meat.  I was ready to kick this challenge in high gear!

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Day one,  I was feeling pretty hype.   My first big change was my coffee.  Coffee is a must in the mornings.  I normally drink it with chocolate almond milk since I don’t drink or eat dairy products made from cow’s milk.  I was not really looking forward to black coffee for the next ten days but it was actually not that bad.   My breakfast during the week did not change since I normally eat egg whites and veggies after my workouts.   Lunch was pretty much the same for me too because I eat a lot of salads with meat,  avocado and nuts.   Dinner was a bit more challenging as I eat potatoes,  sweet potatoes and pasta a few times a week.   I was feeling hungry after dinner most nights and my biggest challenge was snacks.   I was having a hard time finding things to snack on because my snacks usually consist of carbs and wine.  Wine is a snack,  right?

Several people warned me that I would get headaches and told me I might get the Keto Flu.  I was fine and didn’t experience anything like that.  I felt the same, other than feeling hungry for the first three to four days.  I was very surprised I only had one craving throughout the ten days.  I had my first sweet craving on day six but thankfully it passed quickly.  I realize it was easier for me because I live alone and I didn’t have any temptations around me.  By day ten I was glad it was over mostly because I was kind of over it.  I think I missed potatoes the most.   Am I happy I did this challenge?  Yes,  because I love a good challenge and I like to see things through to the end but was I happy with the results?  No,  not really.   I was thinking I would feel really lean and amazing.  I felt the same only I was able to eat bread again.   I am thankful I took my measurements before and after though because I did lose 3.5 inches.   Maybe I had it in my head I was going to feel more like J Lo because I am obsessed with her and she was so pleased with her results.

 

What I did learn from this challenge is that I do eat relatively healthy and very little sugar because I did not go through any sugar withdrawal.  I also know that I can not follow a very strict diet where I am not allowed to eat certain things.  I love all food and can not imagine not being able to eat a baked potato again.  Or french fries!  Life without french fries would be so depressing.   I will continue to live my healthy lifestyle I have been doing for years by eating as clean as possible 80% of the time and treating myself to a piece of chocolate cake or french fries 20% of the time.   Working out will always be part of my lifestyle as well and as long as I love myself and love how I look and accept I will never look like J Lo then all is right in my world.    Could you go ten days without sugar or carbs?

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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JOB INTERVIEWS…..and how to dress.

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If you are looking for a job in today’s world you already know that it is not easy.  Knowing that there are probably several other people being interviewed for the same position should have you wanting to dress to impress!  You have one chance to make a great impression and let your personality and confidence shine in your interview.   Walk into the interview like you already have the job.   If you are dressed appropriately, you are already on your way to making a great first impression and that’s the first step on getting that job.   It’s always a good idea to dress accordingly to the job you are applying for as well.

There are certain colours you should wear to a job interview.  You should avoid loud colours and busy patterns.  Choosing neutral colours over bright colours shows you are serious about getting the job and you mean business.

Navy blue is a really good choice to wear and the most popular because it gives the interviewer the impression you are secure and in control.  It has also been said that navy blue shows you are calm, stable and trustworthy.

Gray is the second most popular color to wear for an interview because it allows the interviewer to stay focused on what you are saying.  Gray is also a sign of sophistication.

Black is a colour that commands attention and represents authority.  Black can also be intimidating so make sure to add an accent colour to soften your outfit.

Wearing a white dress shirt or blouse gives a clean, simple and precise impression.

 

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I always say that you are your walking business card.   For example, I am a Fashion Blogger so I am usually dressed very fashionable and stylish.  I always try to show my personality through my outfit and stand out from others.  I think how you dress says a lot about your personality, so remember what you are trying to say when you step into that interview!  My best advice is dress the part, smile, stand tall and be as confident as possible.  Good luck!

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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