SEASONS CHANGE…..and so does our wardrobe!!

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As Canadians we talk about the weather a lot and probably more so in the winter because it’s so cold and snowy.  Mocha and I went for a walk this weekend and for the first time this year I was not wearing my winter jacket.  The sun was shining,  the snow was melting and then I realized,  spring is actually around the corner.  I could even smell it in the air.  I started to notice people were laughing and smiling as they walked by.  The weather totally affects our mood and usually around this time of year we are over winter.   That is one of the things I love about living in Canada,  seasons change and with that so does our wardrobe!   Don’t get me wrong,  I still try to keep it cute all winter as challenging as it might be when you are trying to dress for warmth.

When the weather starts to get warmer we start to shed our mitts, scarves and hats.  Our coats and boots become lighter.   I am optimistic spring is around the corner so it’s my job to show you what we can expect to see on the streets this season.  Prepare you for your wardrobe change if you will.

Head to toe neutral….

Fishnets…..

Neon…..

Butterfly details…..

Pale blue…..

Polka dots…..

Bike shorts…..

One cold shoulder…..

Obviously I don’t love all of these,  you aren’t meant to.   I do like most of these looks though and I am really loving the one cold shoulder.  There is always one trend every year that I say I don’t like and I won’t be wearing and then a few months after seeing it more and more I change my mind.  This year,  it’s the bike shorts.  I wasn’t feeling it at first but I have added them to my shopping list.  Are there any you are going to add to your wardrobe change?

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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LOVE YOURSELF….all of yourself!

lips6When I was a young girl I hated my nose!  I thought I looked like a chipmunk and I did not like that the tip of my nose turned up.  I remember when I was about five or six years old I would sleep with my face squished into the pillow to try to flatten my nose!  Good thing I never suffocated!  How silly was that?!   I look back now at how ridiculous that was and how even at a young age we find things that we do not like about ourselves.  Let’s just say I have grown into my nose and I think it’s adorable now.

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Look how cute we were though,  seriously?  How could anyone at that age hate their nose and want to change it so badly?  Looking at this picture I wonder what my brother thought about his chubby little cheeks?!  Back to me though,  this blog is about me!  ha ha….

Then came high school.  I will never forget when I started hating on my lips!  I started realizing how big they were and wishing that they were smaller!  One day a friend jokingly called me platypus.  Do you know how huge platypus lips are?  Well actually they aren’t even lips they are more like a duck’s bill.  I laughed and played it off but my massive lips were all I could think about for the next few years.  This magically changed when people started talking about how hot Angelina Jolie was and how gorgeous her big lips were.  I started thinking to myself that maybe mine weren’t so bad after all.  Over the years big lips became quite the thing and now people go as far as injecting their lips to make them big and plump.   So as it turns out, I win!  My plump lips,  my chipmunk nose and I all win!

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There were other things that I struggled with along the way.   Wishing I was prettier,  wishing I was thinner and wishing my chest was smaller.  Once I started accepting that these things made me unique and different from everyone else I really started loving myself…. all of myself!   It’s truly an empowering feeling when you get to that point.  It took me a long time to get to where I am but I love that I did and I love that I can help others get there as well.

Most of us have things about ourselves that we do not like or might even hate,  even the most beautiful people in the world have things they wish they could change about themselves.  Once you learn to embrace everything about you and truly love every part of you it will show and you will be even more beautiful.

I have decided to dedicate the whole month of February to love.  Self-love!  Loving myself a little bit more each day and I really encourage you all to do the same.

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Melissa – Styled by M

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HOW I MADE MY GOALS EVEN BETTER!! ….2019 my best year ever!

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I was feeling pretty motivated when I wrote my previous blog about my 2019 goals.  That was until I attended the most amazing conference in Nashville last week.  Get this,  it was called Best Year Ever.  The next three days were intense as Michael Hyatt spoke to us and with each passing day you could feel the excitement in the room growing.  During this time he taught us why it was important to make goals each year and how to actually achieve them.  Let’s just say I came home feeling so focused and powerful.  It was clear to me that I needed to write another blog about my goals but this one would be much more inspiring!

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Our first day Michael told us that we were all meant to reach our dreams!  We learned to design our break through year and how it was important to be as clear as possible when writing down your goals.   He told us to be clear on our destination and imagine your outcome.   We all have domains in our life and they all work together like a symphony.  When all our domains are balanced and fulfilled it creates a healthy and happy lifestyle.  Our domains are Spiritual, Intellectual, Emotional, Physical,  Marital,  Parental,  Social,  Vocational (work life) ,  Avocational (hobbies) and Financial.   When making your goals at the beginning of each year make sure to write them down!  Start working towards each goal NOW!  If your goal is to save money, don’t tell yourself you will start when you are out of debt.  Go see a Financial Planner and start to get out of debt right away.  Start your goal where you ARE not where you wish you were.  Don’t be embarrassed where your now is either.   In order to set yourself up for a successful year you must take some time to reflect on your previous year and be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you have any regrets.  Acknowledge them,  learn from them and let them go.  Do not bring your regrets into the new year.   It is extremely important to believe in yourself and suspend any disbeliefs you might have.  A good idea is to start saying daily affirmations out loud to yourself every day.  I always thought affirmations were kind of cheesy to be honest but daily affirmations are now a new goal of mine.  I say them out loud  to my self every morning in the shower.   Does my dog wonder who I am talking to?  Probably!  The key is to be consistent with them and make them part of your daily routine.  Now I feel like I am multi tasking when I am in the shower, it’s rewarding!  It’s the small things people!

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It’s also important not to be overly goal orientated.  This can set you up for failure.  Michael suggests having 7 to 10 yearly goals.  I originally had three!  I now have seven exciting goals.  Some people might get over whelmed by this and not know where to start so it’s a great idea to break them down to quarterly goals and start with the easiest task first.

Our second day we learned how to face our fears.  Voicing your fears to yourself helps minimize your fear.  Imagine all that you can accomplish once you face your fears and what is waiting for you on the other side of your fears.   We then learned how to make a good goal even better!  This was the exciting part for me.  An example of this……

Good goal….. I will workout.

Better goal….  Exercise five times a week at 6:30 am for an hour starting January 15th.

Your goal should start with an action verb, include a start date and be as specific as possible.

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Your goals should be risky!  Risky goals ignite your imagination,  they demand creativity,  they enhance results and they inspire enthusiasm!   Your goals should also be exciting and inspire you.  You should also give your self a dead line to reach each goal.  Give yourself less time than you need and do not set the dead line for the end of year.

Creating daily habits and rituals are crucial to reach your goals!   I never knew this and found this part very interesting.  Amazingly enough, 90% of people do not have rituals.  The 10% that do succeed!  I now have a new morning routine and nightly routine.  My morning routine is waking up at 6 am during the week in order to work out at 6:15 am.  I workout for an hour and then walk Mocha for 20 to 30 min.  I say my affirmations while I am in the shower.   I make my social media posts and then don’t check social media again till lunch.  I watch TV while I eat breakfast and then I am ready to start work day at 9 am!  My nightly routine is writing in my grateful journal at 9 pm while watching TV (during a commercial)  at 9:30 pm I set my phone on top of my work out clothes that are already laid out across the room.   This is so I have to get out of bed to turn off my alarm.  This way I don’t lay in bed looking at my Facebook for 15 min. and waste time.  (that was what 2018 Melissa would do)  I read for 30 min and turn the lights out at 10 pm.   I have a great night sleep and wake up refreshed and energized for another exciting day!  Those simple morning and nightly routines are helping me work towards four of my seven goals!   1.  working out   2. daily affirmations   3. less time on social media   4.  reading every day.  Boom!! How can I NOT reach these four goals this year?  I am already doing daily tasks in order to get there!   This is a recipe for success my friends!

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In order to keep the momentum going and stay focused all year you need to write down your motivations for each goal.   At the end of each week read over these motivations in order to keep you on track.  Your motivations are your why.  You never want to lose your why.  Why am I even doing this?  Your motivations will tell you and keep reminding you why you are doing this.  Be prepared to have a messy middle along the way.  You might find you want to give up at some point but going back to your why will motivate you to keep going.  If your goal is to workout then some of your motivations might be….

  1.  So I can look and feel better
  2.  To lose weight
  3.  To live a healthier lifestyle

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Day three we learned how important gratitude was.   Gratitude keeps you motivated and keeps you hopeful.  It can also improve your patience.  You won’t get more of what you want until you are grateful for what you already have.  This is why I have started writing in my grateful journal every night.   I write down five things I am grateful for.  They could be small things or big things.   You might be grateful that the sun was shining that day or you might be grateful that you paid off your credit card bill.   We also learned how to make each goal happen and how to determine the next steps to reach your goals.  You don’t need to know the whole path on how you will get to your goal, just starting with the first few steps and creating momentum is key.    Play full out with your goals!  Don’t have a plan B.  Why set your self up for failure?  You can experiment and change strategies if something doesn’t work but don’t change your goal completely with a Plan B.   Review your 7 to 10 goals every day.   Review your list of motivations for each goal at the end of each week so you don’t lose visibility of your goals along the way.  Ask your self each day what can I do today to move towards my goals?   I have also started asking myself this…. Will this bring me closer towards my goal or will it bring me further from my goal?  When you reach your goal give yourself a reward!  Celebration is very powerful and gives you a sense of progress and confidence.

This is how I turned my three previous goals into even better goals……..

1. Good goal –  I am going to change my workouts so I am leaner and stronger.

Better goal –  Workout out five times a week at 6:15 am for an hour every week starting Jan. 15th by incorporating Ballet,  Yoga and Pilates.

2.  Good goal –  I am going to read more.

Better goal –  Read for 30 minutes every night starting Jan. 15th.

3.  Good goal –  I am going to blog for a local store.

Better goal –  Write a blog for a store starting in April.  I will complete a course on blogging in January.  I will update my website in February.  I will create a blog portfolio in March so I am fully prepared in April.

I really hope that I have inspired some of you to pounce on your goals and to use this information in order to set yourself up for your best year ever!   Feel free to message me if you have any questions or need some help setting your goals for 2019.

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Fun facts….

42% of people are more likely to reach their goals simply by writing them down.

8% of people are successful with their resolutions.

The average person makes the same resolution ten times!!

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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2019 GOALS…this will be my best year yet!

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Some people think New Year’s resolutions are cliche.  I have never really been one for resolutions to be honest but I always make new goals each year.   I love fresh new starts and what better way to start a new year by making some rewarding goals.  I find this time of year very exciting and motivating.  At the end of each year I take some time to reflect.   I think about everything I have accomplished and the lessons I have learned.  Then I think about new goals and how to make the new upcoming year even better.  I like to have goals that will help enhance my life in all areas.  Mind,  body and soul!    I write them down and think about why they are my goals and what I need to do to reach them.

MIND

This year I am going to read more.  I watch way too much TV.   I LOVE reality shows,(don’t judge).  As fun as this is,  I know it does nothing for my mind.  Curling up with a great book is the perfect way to escape from every day stress.  I am also taking some courses on U Demy.   For those who have never heard of U Demy,  it is an online platform that has over 45,000 courses!   They average around $25 each and they have every course imaginable.  From photography,  sports,  public speaking, acting, modeling to writing.  Basically everything you could ever want to learn is available on U Demy.  https://www.udemy.com/

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BODY 

I have been working out almost my whole adult life.  It is something that I do regularly and I can’t see this ever changing.  Living a healthy lifestyle is part of my every day life.  It’s so important to change your workouts and push yourself to new limits.  I have been lifting weights for years now and I feel I really need to change things up.  I started doing yoga last week but with resistance bands.  I am loving it and I think my body is truly thanking me.  I sit at a desk for eight hours at a time and that is incredibly hard on your body.  My goal is to stay toned but to be leaner.  To maximize this goal I will be eating way more greens in 2019.   I want this to be my fittest and healthiest year yet!

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I wrote my very first blog nine months ago.   Writing about fashion,  beauty and self care is something that I am passionate about and passion is great for the soul!   My goal in 2019 is to start writing for a local clothing store.   This goal really excites me because this is something I never saw myself doing a few years ago, so it goes to show you that you never know where your journey will take you.  In order to accomplish this,  I need to build a larger audience.   My main focus is to get more people to follow my blog.  So keep sharing and following my blog,  I really appreciate every one of you!

I live a very healthy, adventurous and happy life.  I know that I am blessed and I am grateful every day for all my blessings.  I also know that I have such an amazing life because I continue to learn and grow.  I really hope I have inspired you all to think about what you want in 2019 and take action to make sure you reach your goals or resolutions.  Remember no goal is too small or too big.   Let’s make this year our best year yet!!!

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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AGING…..and what I do to prevent it!

Aging is a part of life and I completely get that but that doesn’t mean I have to like it.  Here are some easy anti aging tips that you might want to start doing ASAP.

 

Drinking water,  exercising regularly and getting enough sleep are things you can easily do to have your skin looking as refreshed and youthful as possible.  Drinking plenty of water through out the day will keep your skin hydrated.  Hydrated skin will look younger and have a natural glow.   I have a pitcher of cucumber water in my fridge at all times to make sure I drink enough water.  Exercise increases your blood flow,  which helps keep your skin vital and nourishes your skin cells.  When you are sleeping your body’s hydration re balances.  If you do not get enough sleep your water will not be balanced which leads to puffy eyes and dark circles and more visible lines and wrinkles can appear.   These three easy tips make a wonderful recipe to having younger looking skin.

Moisturizing every day and night is a must!  I don’t just moisturize my face either.  I moisturize my whole body,  from head to toe.  Don’t forget your neck,  back of your hands,  knees and eyelids!  When moisturizing your face, always massage in an upward circular motion.   I have recently started a new weekly regime and I am really noticing a difference in my skin!  My skin feels much softer and looks much brighter!   Once a week I use a micro needle roller on my face,  followed by Vitamin C serum and lastly,  I apply some medicinal cream.   This is taking it to a whole new level!  The roller makes tiny little holes that allows the serum to penetrate and absorb deeper into the skin which allows for a more powerful result.    Vitamin C is the latest craze for your skin because it is not only necessary for collagen production and maintenance but it is also a potent antioxidant that can neutralize free radicals in your skin.  The CBD oil in the medicinal cream really helps fade your fine lines while leaving your skin incredibly hydrated.  I get this all natural cream from a local company in the city called Ouulo.

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Your face has more contact with your pillowcase than any other fabric.   This is why I only sleep on a silk pillowcase.  The silk gives your face a healthy glow and keeps your face looking refreshed.  Silk hydrates your skin by keeping moisture close to your skin.

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Wearing sunscreen is the first and best way to help fight premature aging from the sun.  Using a sunscreen daily,  even in the winter can help protect your skin from harmful UV rays.

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Wearing sunglasses will not only prevent sun damage but will also keep you from  squinting which causes crow’s feet.   So not only can sunglasses be part of your stylish outfit but they are protecting your eyes as well.

Sleeping with your make up on might be one of the worst things you can do for your face.  I know we are all guilty of this.   I keep face wipes by my bed for those times I am just too tired to get up and wash my face.   The most important tip I can give you is to wash your face every night and to moisturize right after!  This should be one tip you never skip.  I add face wash to a silicone pore cleansing pad when I wash my face.   The tiny bristles on the top of the pad massage debris out of clogged pores, while the larger bumps exfoliate and overall soften the skin.

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I hope I have inspired you to take better care of your skin and you add these tips to your your daily routine.

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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