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SETTING MYSELF UP FOR EXCELLENCE…..by breaking this bad habit.

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In January I wrote a blog, listing my 2019 goals and one of them was to spend less time on my phone.  I started off strong.  I was spending less time on social media during the day which led to more productivity.   My problem was at night.  I found myself stuck to my phone for hours at a time, between texting and social media.  What a complete distraction and waste of my valuable time!   I found myself watching TV and scrolling through Instagram at the same time.  Realizing I missed an important part of the drama TV show I was watching and having to rewind it.   Ridiculous.   My phone was consuming me.  I know I am not alone on this.   Finally, I said, enough is enough.  I now turn my phone off during the week around 8:30 pm.

The old me…..

Alarm goes off at 6:00 am.   I reach for my phone beside my bed and turn it off. Automatically I check my Facebook and Instagram.  Just like that I am instantly immersed in other people’s lives.  I am not even out of bed yet and I am on Facebook looking to see what other people are saying and doing.  Then on Instagram seeing people’s perfect bodies and their luxurious lifestyles.  Without even know it comparing my life to theirs.   How is that going to set myself up for excellence?  Lying in bed looking at other people’s lives?  Comparing myself to them?  Why doesn’t my booty look like hers?  How do I get my booty like hers?  Best believe it’s not by lying in bed scrolling through Instagram!

The new me……

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Alarm goes off at 6:00 am.   I hop out of bed, feeling refreshed from my solid eight hours sleep.  Brush my teeth, get dressed and walk down the street to the Marriott.   During my short walk there I plan out my day.  What do I want to accomplish that day and what do I need to do to make sure it gets done?  For the next 30 minutes I burn 330 calories swimming laps.  During my swim, I say my affirmations, I list all the things I am grateful for and I pray for my friends and family that I know need a little shout out to God.   This is multitasking at its finest.  After my swim, I sit in the sauna for five minutes.  I like to think that I meditate in those five minutes, but I am basically just enjoying the heat and how great I feel.  I am home by 7:30 am.  I make myself a protein shake and walk Mocha for 30 minutes.  Have you noticed my phone is still off?  I don’t turn it on till I sit down with my coffee almost 12 hours later.   I have already done some much in the two hours I have been awake and I am confident I just set myself up to have an excellent day!

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Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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MY NAME IS MELISSA…..and I am a Shopaholic.

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I love shopping, always have and always will.  When I am happy, I shop.  When I am sad, I shop.  When I am bored, I shop.  When I travel, I shop.  You get the point.  There is a rush I get when I am shopping and it’s something I prefer to do alone.  It is literally one of my favorite things in life.

In January I was in Nashville for a conference about goal setting and setting yourself up to have your best year ever.  One of my goals was to save money.  How was I going to do that?  By shopping less.  I don’t need anything.  I have enough clothes, shoes, bags and accessories to dress ten women and it’s all jammed into my tiny downtown condo.  So, it was there at the conference I told myself after Nashville I would not buy anything till June 1st.   This was early January so almost five months of no shopping!  Could I do this? There was no way I could start immediately because Nashville has so many cute neighborhoods with the most unique boutiques and I planned on visiting all of them.   So, I made sure I thoroughly enjoyed my last shopping hurrah.

In February I had my first temptation.   I wanted to get a new winter coat and the end of the season is the time to get one because they are on sale.   Then I remembered this whole not shopping kick I was on.  I started talking myself into it.  It’s not really shopping if it’s something I need.  It would be on sale, so I would be saving money!  Then to make matters worse I found one I loved.   It was in my shopping cart for two days and I was almost going to click buy and then realized if I did this, I would have not only failed but I would not even have lasted a month.  This was the coat…. I still feel sad looking at it.  What are the odds it will still be available in June?  shop11

I was tempted a few times online and really really wanted all of these.   I still really really want them!  Facebook ads are going to be the death of me!

I was even in Vegas in April and I did not buy anything but makeup and only because my eye shadow palette shattered on the plane.  I walked by H&H and almost died when I saw massive signs saying 70% off.  70% off?!?!  That is almost free, it wouldn’t really be shopping if it was free, would it?  I kept walking; I don’t know how I did but I kept walking.

Twice I met a client at Nordstrom to go shopping.   So there I was in the men’s section thinking I got this.  I am working, today is about my client not me.  While he was in the dressing room, I found myself with a pair of Champion cut off joggers in my hand looking for the price tag.  One might think I was safe because I was in the men’s section but I wear men’s sweats!  I was basically torturing myself.   So, I did what I had to do, I ran out of there!!  Ha, no I slowly walked back to the dressing room to wait for my client and kept thinking June can’t come fast enough.

Fast forward a few months, 132 days to be exact and I still have not bought anything, not one article of clothing.   There were times I didn’t think I would make it.  I can see the finish line, only 12 more days.  There is no stopping me now.  These past months have been uber challenging for me, but I am incredibly proud of myself.  So much so that I am going to reward myself with a shopping spree on June 2nd.  I will be in Vegas again and best believe my first stop will be the Outlets!!  Thinking about this makes my heart race and I get butterflies in my stomach.  If I am going to be addicted to anything, I am glad it is shopping and if my only real struggle is not buying anything for 5 months then I am beyond blessed.

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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HOW I MADE MY GOALS EVEN BETTER!! ….2019 my best year ever!

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I was feeling pretty motivated when I wrote my previous blog about my 2019 goals.  That was until I attended the most amazing conference in Nashville last week.  Get this,  it was called Best Year Ever.  The next three days were intense as Michael Hyatt spoke to us and with each passing day you could feel the excitement in the room growing.  During this time he taught us why it was important to make goals each year and how to actually achieve them.  Let’s just say I came home feeling so focused and powerful.  It was clear to me that I needed to write another blog about my goals but this one would be much more inspiring!

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Our first day Michael told us that we were all meant to reach our dreams!  We learned to design our break through year and how it was important to be as clear as possible when writing down your goals.   He told us to be clear on our destination and imagine your outcome.   We all have domains in our life and they all work together like a symphony.  When all our domains are balanced and fulfilled it creates a healthy and happy lifestyle.  Our domains are Spiritual, Intellectual, Emotional, Physical,  Marital,  Parental,  Social,  Vocational (work life) ,  Avocational (hobbies) and Financial.   When making your goals at the beginning of each year make sure to write them down!  Start working towards each goal NOW!  If your goal is to save money, don’t tell yourself you will start when you are out of debt.  Go see a Financial Planner and start to get out of debt right away.  Start your goal where you ARE not where you wish you were.  Don’t be embarrassed where your now is either.   In order to set yourself up for a successful year you must take some time to reflect on your previous year and be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you have any regrets.  Acknowledge them,  learn from them and let them go.  Do not bring your regrets into the new year.   It is extremely important to believe in yourself and suspend any disbeliefs you might have.  A good idea is to start saying daily affirmations out loud to yourself every day.  I always thought affirmations were kind of cheesy to be honest but daily affirmations are now a new goal of mine.  I say them out loud  to my self every morning in the shower.   Does my dog wonder who I am talking to?  Probably!  The key is to be consistent with them and make them part of your daily routine.  Now I feel like I am multi tasking when I am in the shower, it’s rewarding!  It’s the small things people!

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It’s also important not to be overly goal orientated.  This can set you up for failure.  Michael suggests having 7 to 10 yearly goals.  I originally had three!  I now have seven exciting goals.  Some people might get over whelmed by this and not know where to start so it’s a great idea to break them down to quarterly goals and start with the easiest task first.

Our second day we learned how to face our fears.  Voicing your fears to yourself helps minimize your fear.  Imagine all that you can accomplish once you face your fears and what is waiting for you on the other side of your fears.   We then learned how to make a good goal even better!  This was the exciting part for me.  An example of this……

Good goal….. I will workout.

Better goal….  Exercise five times a week at 6:30 am for an hour starting January 15th.

Your goal should start with an action verb, include a start date and be as specific as possible.

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Your goals should be risky!  Risky goals ignite your imagination,  they demand creativity,  they enhance results and they inspire enthusiasm!   Your goals should also be exciting and inspire you.  You should also give your self a dead line to reach each goal.  Give yourself less time than you need and do not set the dead line for the end of year.

Creating daily habits and rituals are crucial to reach your goals!   I never knew this and found this part very interesting.  Amazingly enough, 90% of people do not have rituals.  The 10% that do succeed!  I now have a new morning routine and nightly routine.  My morning routine is waking up at 6 am during the week in order to work out at 6:15 am.  I workout for an hour and then walk Mocha for 20 to 30 min.  I say my affirmations while I am in the shower.   I make my social media posts and then don’t check social media again till lunch.  I watch TV while I eat breakfast and then I am ready to start work day at 9 am!  My nightly routine is writing in my grateful journal at 9 pm while watching TV (during a commercial)  at 9:30 pm I set my phone on top of my work out clothes that are already laid out across the room.   This is so I have to get out of bed to turn off my alarm.  This way I don’t lay in bed looking at my Facebook for 15 min. and waste time.  (that was what 2018 Melissa would do)  I read for 30 min and turn the lights out at 10 pm.   I have a great night sleep and wake up refreshed and energized for another exciting day!  Those simple morning and nightly routines are helping me work towards four of my seven goals!   1.  working out   2. daily affirmations   3. less time on social media   4.  reading every day.  Boom!! How can I NOT reach these four goals this year?  I am already doing daily tasks in order to get there!   This is a recipe for success my friends!

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In order to keep the momentum going and stay focused all year you need to write down your motivations for each goal.   At the end of each week read over these motivations in order to keep you on track.  Your motivations are your why.  You never want to lose your why.  Why am I even doing this?  Your motivations will tell you and keep reminding you why you are doing this.  Be prepared to have a messy middle along the way.  You might find you want to give up at some point but going back to your why will motivate you to keep going.  If your goal is to workout then some of your motivations might be….

  1.  So I can look and feel better
  2.  To lose weight
  3.  To live a healthier lifestyle

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Day three we learned how important gratitude was.   Gratitude keeps you motivated and keeps you hopeful.  It can also improve your patience.  You won’t get more of what you want until you are grateful for what you already have.  This is why I have started writing in my grateful journal every night.   I write down five things I am grateful for.  They could be small things or big things.   You might be grateful that the sun was shining that day or you might be grateful that you paid off your credit card bill.   We also learned how to make each goal happen and how to determine the next steps to reach your goals.  You don’t need to know the whole path on how you will get to your goal, just starting with the first few steps and creating momentum is key.    Play full out with your goals!  Don’t have a plan B.  Why set your self up for failure?  You can experiment and change strategies if something doesn’t work but don’t change your goal completely with a Plan B.   Review your 7 to 10 goals every day.   Review your list of motivations for each goal at the end of each week so you don’t lose visibility of your goals along the way.  Ask your self each day what can I do today to move towards my goals?   I have also started asking myself this…. Will this bring me closer towards my goal or will it bring me further from my goal?  When you reach your goal give yourself a reward!  Celebration is very powerful and gives you a sense of progress and confidence.

This is how I turned my three previous goals into even better goals……..

1. Good goal –  I am going to change my workouts so I am leaner and stronger.

Better goal –  Workout out five times a week at 6:15 am for an hour every week starting Jan. 15th by incorporating Ballet,  Yoga and Pilates.

2.  Good goal –  I am going to read more.

Better goal –  Read for 30 minutes every night starting Jan. 15th.

3.  Good goal –  I am going to blog for a local store.

Better goal –  Write a blog for a store starting in April.  I will complete a course on blogging in January.  I will update my website in February.  I will create a blog portfolio in March so I am fully prepared in April.

I really hope that I have inspired some of you to pounce on your goals and to use this information in order to set yourself up for your best year ever!   Feel free to message me if you have any questions or need some help setting your goals for 2019.

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Fun facts….

42% of people are more likely to reach their goals simply by writing them down.

8% of people are successful with their resolutions.

The average person makes the same resolution ten times!!

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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2019 GOALS…this will be my best year yet!

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Some people think New Year’s resolutions are cliche.  I have never really been one for resolutions to be honest but I always make new goals each year.   I love fresh new starts and what better way to start a new year by making some rewarding goals.  I find this time of year very exciting and motivating.  At the end of each year I take some time to reflect.   I think about everything I have accomplished and the lessons I have learned.  Then I think about new goals and how to make the new upcoming year even better.  I like to have goals that will help enhance my life in all areas.  Mind,  body and soul!    I write them down and think about why they are my goals and what I need to do to reach them.

MIND

This year I am going to read more.  I watch way too much TV.   I LOVE reality shows,(don’t judge).  As fun as this is,  I know it does nothing for my mind.  Curling up with a great book is the perfect way to escape from every day stress.  I am also taking some courses on U Demy.   For those who have never heard of U Demy,  it is an online platform that has over 45,000 courses!   They average around $25 each and they have every course imaginable.  From photography,  sports,  public speaking, acting, modeling to writing.  Basically everything you could ever want to learn is available on U Demy.  https://www.udemy.com/

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BODY 

I have been working out almost my whole adult life.  It is something that I do regularly and I can’t see this ever changing.  Living a healthy lifestyle is part of my every day life.  It’s so important to change your workouts and push yourself to new limits.  I have been lifting weights for years now and I feel I really need to change things up.  I started doing yoga last week but with resistance bands.  I am loving it and I think my body is truly thanking me.  I sit at a desk for eight hours at a time and that is incredibly hard on your body.  My goal is to stay toned but to be leaner.  To maximize this goal I will be eating way more greens in 2019.   I want this to be my fittest and healthiest year yet!

SOUL

I wrote my very first blog nine months ago.   Writing about fashion,  beauty and self care is something that I am passionate about and passion is great for the soul!   My goal in 2019 is to start writing for a local clothing store.   This goal really excites me because this is something I never saw myself doing a few years ago, so it goes to show you that you never know where your journey will take you.  In order to accomplish this,  I need to build a larger audience.   My main focus is to get more people to follow my blog.  So keep sharing and following my blog,  I really appreciate every one of you!

I live a very healthy, adventurous and happy life.  I know that I am blessed and I am grateful every day for all my blessings.  I also know that I have such an amazing life because I continue to learn and grow.  I really hope I have inspired you all to think about what you want in 2019 and take action to make sure you reach your goals or resolutions.  Remember no goal is too small or too big.   Let’s make this year our best year yet!!!

Melissa Gauvreau – Styled by M

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